My oldest daughter, 26 yrs. old, has informed me she is going “Vegan”. Since she doesn’t live with me this does not pose any kind of problem for me as I don’t have to cook for her. She, like me, even in her short life has yo-yo’d up and down the scale. She too has lost a lot of weight on Weight Watchers a couple of times, and like me is self sabotaging, and put it, plus some, back on. In an earlier post I had written how I had gone to visit her to set up her kitchen w/gadgets and food for her to get started back on WW, and make it possible for her to cook with minimal effort for her busy lifestyle. She is a manager for one of the big chain restaurants and I figured that would help her also, as she could just have the cooks “whip her up” whatever she wanted. Evidently a lot of the food they get is already prepared, so she has no control as to what goes into it, so it really wasn’t very helpful at all.
The reason I am writing about this, is that her diet had actually gotten extremely bad, even since I had been down there. She woke up with coke or pepsi much the same way I wake up with coffee. After work at nite instead of either having a salad or something at work, or even cooking at home, she would go thru the drive-throughs. As you would guess, the scale has gone up and up, and it’s quite apparent that her self-esteem has gone down and down (no makeup, sloppy dress, slouching). After reading this new book, “Skinny Bitchs”, reading all it has to say about how certain foods affect our body, and coming up with a plan, she has decided to make this very definite “lifestyle” change. (I should note here also that this basically started with a PETA film on slaughterhouses). I for one think this is terrific. She has always had digestive problems. Her weight has been out of control. She generally feels awful all of the time. She was worried about her thyroid (once again looking for the “quick fix”) and I had told her about food allergies. (I have really learned quite a bit on these blogs, thank you everybody).
What she hadn’t counted on was the lack of support from her co-worker and currently closest friend. Her friend has laughed at her, been very condescending to her, and generally mean about this new change. Her co-worker also could stand to lose several pounds and is not really in any way someone you would want to emulate. Once again I explained to my daughter that “misery loves company”. Unfortunately no matter what kind of change we make to make ourselves better, there are going to be those that want us to stay stuck as we are. My daughter’s friend right now has in my daughter, someone she can eat junk food with, who shares the same problems finding things to wear, and who is basically “obese”, so she’s not alone. We all need to remember most people have their own agenda, whether conscious or not, and it may not always be for our good. Remember this when you find it hard to “swim against the tide”. If you’re feeling good about what you’re doing and it’s working for you, there may be people who are not happy with you. Just remember in the end, it’s you that has to live with you, and it’s your psyche and physical health that are important. People don’t always want you to show them change is possible.
In the meantime, I’m b-b-quing steaks for dinner tonite. LOL.
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