I Was Ready With Recriminations…

I think that’s the word I’m looking for to describe my birthday lunch yesterday. My middle daughter who treated me to lunch, did as she does to everyone in the family who’s birthday it is, talked me into Red Lobster for lunch. I should explain this a little.

When the kids were small we used to take the family out any time it was one of their birthdays. When they were little, it was usually Chuck-E-Cheese (Pizza and games) or while it was open, Bullwinkle’s (Pizza, chicken, and games). Once I became a single mom, we started going other places, even if it was just cheap fastfood. It was the one time all of us were together, because it usually included my sister and her kids also, and all the attention was on the ‘Birthday’ child. As the children got older, they started having their favorite places that we basically only went to on someone’s birthday. My middle daughter has never waivered in her love for Red Lobster, no matter who’s birthday it was. She would bribe her younger brother to go on his birthday, and for her Grandmother’s birthday she always got her way because Grandma’s a lobster freak. I too love seafood, so I’m fairly easy. The only one she couldn’t work her magic on was her older sister, who hates fish.

I had basically perused the menu online and decided on the “endless soup and salad bowls”. That was bad enough since New England Clam Chowder is always my soup of choice. I had the salad first, which helped calm my appetite quite a bit, but who can resist the softest, most delicious, warm cheese biscuits they bring to the table? I have tried making these at home once, so I could control what ingredients went into them, thus controlling the points. They weren’t the same. I just had to have one, or maybe it was 2 (you know it was 2, LOL). The one thing I did do right was just have a little bit of leftover soup, probably a half cup, and a couple of shrimp for dinner. Not eating much last nite was probably the only reason I didn’t gain from yesterday. My first inclination was to not eat anything last nite, but I don’t need anything else slowing down my metabolism or making my body hoard what fat it has.

I was so good for Thanksgiving, so good for Christmas dinner, but I sure made up for it for my birthday! I think a part of that is a sense of ‘entitlement’ that I really should get over, but I’m ready now to bring in the new year. I’m looking over the “core” plan again to see if I can stick to it to give me a bit of a jumpstart, plus a couple of weeks ago they handed out a “quickstart” pamphlet that I haven’t even looked at. I’m scheduling my exercise, my posting, and working my ‘weightwatchers online tools’ for everyday. My motto shall be ‘Drop all this weight in 2008!” once and for all! 

Checking In…

 About 3 lbs heavier this AM. I don’t really think it was Christmas as much as it was probably my Birthday yesterday. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas this year, and happy Boxing Day to all my friends in Canada.  When I was up there it would be so odd if I had to give someone my birthdate for some reason, (DMV, etc.) right away they would mention about being born on ‘Boxing Day’. Canada or America, it’s another day of presents and ‘after Christmas sales’! Seems good to me. LOL

I, myself, had an exceptionally good holiday, even tho absolutely none of the gifts I ordered thru the mail and paid extra for faster shipping, got here on time. I ended up wrapping pics and descriptions of what they could expect, so the kids would at least have something to open. Part of it finally showed up yesterday, after my daughter had left for home, of course.

My oldest daughter came up from Central Cal and stayed for a couple of days. It’s the first time she’s stayed with us in quite awhile. (The house is just too full for anyone or anything else). It was great! Everyone got along perfectly, and the 3 of them slept in the livingroom around the Christmas tree just like when they were little. They were up a lot earlier than I thought they would be, but it was so wonderful to hear them joking and laughing first thing in the morning. Then as their usual Christmas tradition, after presents, they went to a movie while my dear BF and I cooked.

Yesterday my oldest daughter ushered me out of the house bright and early to go check out furniture for her new apartment and go exchange one of her gifts at Macy’s.  This all under the gise of taking me out for my birthday. LOL. It was fun tho. We had a ball walking thru the mall, which I haven’t really done in years. She had to leave early yesterday afternoon so she could be at work last nite at 6.

My middle daughter is taking me out to lunch today and for a couple of cocktails. Yeah! I’ve waited so many years to hear one of my kids say that to me. It feels even better than I imagined. LOL. So needless to say, I’m still celebrating! My boyfriend made my favorite Prime Rib dinner, (hence the 3lbs), got me a beautiful chocolate bday cake, that I’ll probably leave for the kids, and some gorgous pink roses. He was also the one to finally find the perfume antomizer that I have been wanting for years. I currently spray my afterbath splash out of a spray bottle that would normally be used for some kind of cleaning supply. It drives my daughters crazy, and it’s just one more of the endearing qualities I have that causes my oldest daughter to proclaim she comes from a ‘white trash’ or ‘trailer trash’ background. (fondly, of course).

I Am Moving And…

my house is getting cleaner! In one of my earlier posts, I had said about doing housework for exercise to kill two birds with one stone. I’m here to say that it works. It just takes a holiday and company coming to get me motivated! LOL. Really tho, I feel so much better. I have been super dusting high and low, vacuming, cleaning out (some, not enough, according to my daughter) clutter, and running back and forth to the garage. This doesn’t include the shopping.

Today we are finally going to get our tree, so I’ll be wrestling with that and then decorating it. There will be a few more trips to the garage and I still have a little shopping left to do, grocery and XMAS. I think I will manage to get a little exercise in today with that stuff going on. For me, as of yet it’s not so much a matter of having an exercise routine as it is just getting in motion. My daughter and I are signing up at the gym tho, so that will help with a routine after Christmas.

My WW bars have been a Godsend. I don’t know why I insist on torturing myself so, but I do. The other night I was grocery shopping, and instead of avoiding the bakery, which would be the smart thing to do, I had to look at every little thing. They had some of the most beautifully decorated holiday cakes and most scrumptious desserts I have ever seen, especially for a store bakery. I can’t say that it wasn’t tempting because you would know I was lying or I just wasn’t human, but I kept telling myself I had the 2pt bars full of Chocolate in the car. All I was doing was looking. Of course, looking usually adds 5lbs. just by osmosis. Just kidding, but sometimes I feel like that.

I hope you all are having a wonderful Holiday Season, whatever it is you celebrate, and that things are going smoothly. Don’t forget to pamper yourself a little in between dealing with family, etc. For tips on how not to be one of the “Holiday Heart Attack” statistics, visit me at http://www.lauriannsnewlife.blogspot.com Some of the things I learned while researching my article on “Why Death Visits The Holidays” really surprised me and it might you too. So many of us have had a friend or a loved one “pass” this time of year. I hope you find it interesting reading. It may help you recognize the signs in someone else.

The Holiday Tips In My Inbox

I made a concious decision not to weigh in yesterday. I decided to clean house and get ready for the Christmas Tree instead. I didn’t decide not to weigh in for the usual reasons people don’t weigh in this time of year. It wasn’t from too much partying, to many holiday treats, etc. It was in an effort to preserve my sanity and my eating plan. Since I have been doing the research on what has happened to my body since menopause, I absolutely know I have to exercise to lose. To get on the scale to have lost .2 or .4 would just piss me off. So I am sticking to my eating plan, and my daughter and I have decided to join a gym. Normally I hate this idea, because I’ve done it before where you sign a contract for a year and go a total of 2 months the whole time they’re pulling money for it out of your account.

I received a ‘buy 1 get a friend membership free’ coupon to a gym I haven’t really heard much about. For me it’s a little far to travel, but my daughter likes that idea because she figures none of her friends will be there. Now, hopefully I have a workout buddy and motivation, so I am ‘on the road again’. LOL

For a little fun and to show how ludicrous we can be during the holidays, I thought I would share the ‘Tips For Holiday Eating’ I received in my inbox today from a friend. Obviously a supporter. LOL


1.   Avoid carrot sticks. Anyone who puts carrots on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit.  In fact, if you see carrots, leave immediately. Go next door, where they’re serving rum balls.

2. Drink as much eggnog as you can. And quickly.  It’s rare. You can’t find  it any other time of year but now. So drink up! Who cares that it has 10,000 calories in every sip? It’s not as if you’re going to turn into an eggnog-alcoholic or something. It’s a treat. Enjoy it. Have one for me. Have two. It’s later than you think. It’s Christmas!

3. If something comes with gravy, use it. That’s the whole point of gravy. Gravy does not stand alone. Pour it on. Make a volcano out of your mashed potatoes. Fill it with gravy. Eat the volcano. Repeat.

4. As for mashed potatoes, always ask if they’re made with skim milk or whole milk. If it’s skim, pass. Why bother? It’s like buying a sports car with an  automatic transmission.

5. Do not have a snack before going to a party in an effort to control your eating. The whole point of going to a Christmas party is to eat other people’s food for free. Lots of it. Hello?

6. Under no circumstances should you exercise between now and New Year’s. You can do that in January when you have nothing else to do. This is the time for long naps, which you’ll need after circling the buffet table while  carrying a 10-pound plate of food and that vat of eggnog.

7. If you come across something really good at a buffet table, like frosted Christmas cookies in the shape and size of Santa, position yourself near them and don’t budge. Have as many as you can before becoming the center of attention. They’re like a beautiful pair of shoes. If you leave them behind, you’re never going to see them again.

8. Same for pies. Apple. Pumpkin. Mincemeat. Have a slice of each. Or if you don’t like mincemeat, have two apples and one pumpkin. Always have three. When else do you get to have more than one dessert? Labor Day?

9. Did someone mention fruitcake? Granted, it’s loaded with the mandatory celebratory calories, but avoid it at all cost. I mean, have some standards.

10. One final tip: If you don’t feel terrible when you leave the party or get up from the table, you haven’t been paying attention. Re-read tips; start over, but hurry, January is just around the corner. Remember this motto to live by:

“Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming, “WOO HOO, what a ride!”

Have a great holiday season.


I Didn’t Disappear…

And neither have the pounds. I have been doing some research. I, for the first time wanted to know all I could on body changes thru peri- and post- menopause. I know most of you I communicate with are young enough you don’t feel you have to worry about this yet, but you should. I wish for all my knowledge of the body and nutrition, I had known just a little more about this transition in my life, before I got here. It’s amazing to me how much what you do now has to do with what happens later. I always thought because I had lost weight in the past I could do it again, anytime I wanted. Even tho it’s always hard to go back to eating properly and losing the extra weight, and God knows it never comes off as fast as it went on, your dealing with a new set of rules after menopause.

One of the common things to take place as we age is a lack of activity. If you think about it, most of us actually start this the day we get our driver’s license and quit walking everywhere. I, as a girl, lived in a small town and we thought nothing of walking uptown, all the way down the main drag, then back again. Even if you’re not overeating, this is one thing you need to step up, not start slacking off of. What do I do? I am no longer working as I used to, so I am no longer on my feet 10 to 12 hours a day. I am not running back and forth behind the bar, and I am not lifting cases of beer. While I used to use work as an excuse for not working out, now I have replaced it with sitting at the computer most of the time. For those of you who have been with me awhile, you know from my prior posts that exercise is one of the hardest lifestyle changes I need to make. I need to make it because “belly fat” comes with old age, the dangerous kind (which is probably why I keep saying ‘this fat feels different than before’). I like to do activities, but I hate exercise. I am looking into classes, but many of them are only once a week. I am looking at weight lifting DVD’s, but really don’t know where to start. The one thing that is the same after menopause is that muscle burns fat, and unfortunately mother nature is working against me here. As we age we suffer muscle loss just thru the changes in our body unless we do something to counter act it.

Any suggestions or ideas would be appreciated. I don’t have a lot of room (too much clutter and too many people), but if anyone knows of classes that run a few times a week vs. once, or something that’s worked for you, please let me know. I’ve gone thru all the contemplation. I need to move! If I’m going to stick to a good eating plan, I need to see something happen, and this appears to be the only way to do that. Damn it!

I Swear…Really

I weighed in yesterday, but it wasn’t good. Oh, I went down, but not much for as good as I’ve been.  I know a lot of it is lack of exercise, but I’m not eating anything like I used to, and, I was so good all last week. It’s so frustrating! I’m thinking our bodies change all the time and maybe I need a change in diet. I really am thinking about switching to core, just to shake things up a bit. It is kind of nice to have a definite list of what you can eat and if it’s not on the list, don’t eat it. I just worry about doing that this time of year as the flex points gives me a way to have unusual things over the holidays.

Thanks to Hueyea for mentioning the satisfaction “sigh”. I had never heard that before and then they mentioned it in the meeting yesterday. Last night was the first time I had paid attention to it, and I quit eating right then (which is supposed to be the idea).

I really thought once I reached menopause, losing weight would actually be a little easier because of not dealing with water weight, etc. anymore. I didn’t realize while I sing praises for that, everything else has slowed down. My exercise, metabolism, etc. It really  isn’t fair!

For a little longer I will probably stay on flex, work harder on exercise and my water. I have decided to do a little more research on women postmenopausal to get more of an idea how things work. Just a word of advice to you younger ladies, it’s good you’re working on it now. Get rid of it young and keep it off while it is so much better insurance for your old age, and while it’s still relatively easier than later. (Altho it’s never easy. I’ve dieted all my life, I understand)

I Really Do Love The…

Christmas season! Everything is so beautiful and fun. It’s a shame so many people forget just the basics. It’s still free to take the kids and go looking at the beautiful homes dressed in Christmas lights. (Well, not completely free with the cost of gas being what it is). It’s still a wonderful time for quality time with the kids baking and candy making for friends and neighbors (Just be careful what you eat vs. giving away).  There are so many things that bring a special kind of joy and happiness that money just can’t buy.  I never thought I would say this, but I miss when my kids were little and everything was such a delight. Over the past few years of them growing up, I was always working and we lost sight of our old traditions and the things that made them special. I’m sorry I let that happen. Even tho they’re all young adults now, I get a second chance to bring a lot of those traditions back to life. I’ve been watching every Christmas movie and cartoon (Charlie Brown Christmas) I can see. I haven’t seen a lot of these in at least 10 yrs. and they still ‘warm the cockyls of my heart.

Taking WW bars with me in the car everywhere I go has helped me a lot when it comes to wanting some of the Holiday Sweets. I’ve been behaving altho at times it just isn’t easy, but neither is being too fat for my clothes, the lack of energy from being overweight, and everything else that goes with this extra person I’m carrying around with me on the outside. Here’s to all of us along this path, looking forward to a “lighter” 2008.